Venus in the Houses in Synastry Part 2

Venus is the planet of love, beauty, romance, values, and finances. Where your Venus falls in your partner’s chart shows where you bring these energies into their life. As a rule, it is generally the house person who feels the energies the most.

Your Venus in your partner’s 7^th house:

The 7^th house represents one-on-one relationships, including marriage, long-term partnerships, and business partnerships. This is a strong signifier of overall compatibility and attraction. This is one of the best aspects to have in synastry!

You: You are strongly attracted to your partner. The two of you have a mutual love for one another and have no problem committing to each other. You discover so much about your love nature through being in a relationship with this person. You are highly considerate of your partner’s needs, and greatly desire to please them. Your partner also seeks to please you, and tries to make your relationship as harmonious, loving, and peaceful as possible. As such, conflict is certainly minimized when the two of you are together. The 7^th house is naturally ruled by Venus, so you will find that your approaches to love and relationships are eerily similar!

Your partner: You are highly attracted to your partner! You are strongly drawn to another, and the chemistry is magnetic. The two of you greatly admire each other, and have a very similar approach to love and relationship. This makes your relationship seem very natural, as you easily relate to one another. You love being with your partner. You feel so loved and adored by him/her, and they feel the same way about you. You are considerate of each other’s feelings, and have a strong desire to make each other happy. Conflict and disagreements do not plague your relationship; you solve your issues through compromise and cooperation. Being in a relationship with one another feels natural to the both of you. You are likely to see your partner as your ideal mate.

Your Venus in your partner’s 8^th house:

The 8^th house represents sex, intimacy, sharing, joint resources, and transformation. This relationship is magnetic, intense, and regenerative.

You: Your sexual and emotional feelings are heightened by your partner. Your partner is deeply in love with you! You are likely to see your partner as mysterious, magnetic, and fascinating. You have a greater than average effect on your partner’s emotional well-being. Indeed, you have the ability to bring out emotions from your partner than he/she never knew were there! Your partner may feel especially obsessive and possessive when it comes to you and your relationship.  The feelings for one another are deep and intense. The physical attraction for one another is through the roof. The two of you easily uncover each other’s deepest, darkest secrets. In fact, secrets may pop out of your mouth before you even realize it! Sexual intimacy and emotional regeneration through sharing feelings will be the hallmark of your relationship. The sex is likely to be intense, deep, and highly satisfying.

Your partner: Like a moth to a flame, you are strongly drawn to your partner. You find your partner fascinating and highly sexually attractive, as well as alluring and mysterious. You want to uncover your partner’s deepest, darkest secrets. At times, your partner may seem a bit superficial to you, which will annoy you somewhat, due to the fact that you want to look deep into their soul and figure out how they tick. Your partner brings out intense emotional reactions out of you. The sex is deep, transformative, and highly addictive. Your relationship is likely to be complex and very consuming. Your desire to bond, both emotionally and physically, with your partner is very strong, and almost overwhelming.

Your Venus in your partner’s 9^th house:

The 9^th house represents travel, higher learning, religion and belief systems.

You: You will find that your partner has a great admiration for your lifestyle and personal philosophies. You open up your partner’s mind to a wide range of viewpoints and perspectives on the world. Because of you, your partner will feel the desire to learn, travel, and expand his/her mind. Indeed, long journeys together bring the two of you closer together and expand your love for one another. The two of you may share many of the same religious or philosophical beliefs. You and your partner may come from different cultural backgrounds, which is highly attractive to the both of you. Your partner may see you as a wise teacher or advisor.

Your partner: Your partner stimulates your desire for freedom, travel, and expansion. You are likely to feel “lucky” and optimistic around your partner. In fact, your partner is likely to bring you a lot of luck! You share a mutual interest in philosophy, travel, education, and/or religion. In fact, you may have met each other when one of you was abroad. Your relationship may act as a spiritual experience for you. The influence your partner has over you on an inner level is very strong. Exploring different cultures and countries together increases your love for one another and brings you closer together. Indeed, traveling with one another is very enjoyable because you get along so well.

Your Venus in your partner’s 10^th house:

The 10^th house represents the career, public image, social status, and authoritarian figures.

You: Your partner looks up to you like a role model. You possess the qualities your partner wants to be known for. More specifically, your social graces, manners, tastes, and beauty are all things your partner wants for him/herself. You may bring a lot of luck to your partner’s career by introducing them to friends in high places. Your partner feels their social status is greatly improved when they are with you. Indeed, you may feel that your partner sees you as a “trophy wife/husband.” You have a strong interest in your partner’s career and reputation. Material success and social status is important to the both of you. If you are a woman, your mate (the house person) will admire you and treat you like a goddess!

Your partner: You greatly admire and respect your partner. You feel as though your reputation and social status are greatly improved when you are with your partner. You feel proud to say they are your partner. You may tend to parade them around in public, as though they were your trophy. Your partner is highly supportive of your career and ambitions. The two of you enjoy working together and being in public together. In fact, the two of you may find yourselves in the “public eye” from time to time. Shyer couples may feel uncomfortable with the fact that the two of you attract a lot of attention when you are together. In addition, your partner may remind you of one of your parents.

Your Venus in your partner’s 11^th house:

The 11^th house represents friendships, groups, and associations.

You: You and your partner may have met through a group of friends, or a club or association the both of you belong to. This aspect indicates a relationship based on mutual friendship and equality. In addition, your partner may see you as a “fulfillment of a wish,” which is obviously great for any time of relationship. Your partner feels you improve their social status. You may introduce your partner to a wider circle of friends. In fact, the two of you may be more affectionate with one another when you are with friends! Those around you can feel the love between the two of you.

Your partner: You may have met your partner through a group of mutual friends, or through a club or association. You see your partner as your best friend. Your partner may expand your social circle by introducing you to new friends. You may feel your social status is improved because of your partner and your relationship. You feel very comfortable showing your partner affection when you are in a social setting.

Your Venus in your partner’s 12^th house:

The 12^th house represents secrets, addictions, dreams, fantasies, and illusions.

You: You find your partner highly mysterious, and may have difficultly trusting him/her because of this. This is an indication of a hidden relationship, or a relationship based on secrets. Otherwise, you may have a secret crush on the house person. You or your partner may feel “hidden away” from your each other’s outer life. Nevertheless, this is a relationship based on mutual compassion and sympathy. You definitely make your partner feel better about him/herself. The two of you may share a highly spiritual and/or psychic link. Your partner feels that you understand him/her very well. The chemistry between the two of you is haunting, and even addictive. This is an indicator of a clandestine or scandalous love affair.

Your partner: You are highly attracted to and fascinated by your partner. Your feelings for this person are deep and enduring. You may love this person unconditionally. When you are with your partner, you become more introspective and contemplative. The bond the two of you share is spiritual and based on subconscious feelings.  Your feelings for your partner are difficult to understand. Your partner may distrust you somewhat, due to your vagueness and mysteriousness. You may tend to disregard or ignore your feelings for your partner, and you may have a very hard time expressing your feelings for them. As such, you may sometimes feel that your partner is leading you on. Make sure you are not projecting your fantasies or delusions onto this person, and that your partner is not deceiving you.

Venus in the Houses in Synastry Part 1

Venus is the planet of love, beauty, romance, values, and finances. Where your Venus falls in your partner’s chart shows where you bring these energies into their life. As a rule, it is generally the house person who feels the energies the most.

Your Venus in your partner’s 1^st house:

The 1^st house represents physical appearance, mannerisms, and the way we project ourselves to the world.

You: You find your partner extremely physically attractive! You may consider your partner your physical ideal. You find them beautiful, charming, and graceful. You love the way they dress, their musical taste, and their mannerisms. This is especially true if your Venus is close to the person’s Ascendant; this makes the attraction even stronger. You definitely want to please your partner, and may go out of your way to spoil them. You give them plenty of compliments. Because you hold your partner in such high esteem, you may find it difficult to accept any rude or rough behavior from them. If you are an artist, you may feel inspired by your partner. On the downside, you may be too wrapped up in the person’s appearance. In other words, you might only “love” your partner for what he/she looks like, rather than who he/she is!

Your partner: Your partner finds you physically beautiful! To them, you are a walking, talking Aphrodite/Adonis! Your ego definitely gets a boost when you are around your partner. Your partner spoils you with gifts and compliments, and adores the way you dress and the way you conduct yourself. Your partner might see you as a “trophy wife/husband” or “arm candy.” Sometimes, you might feel as though your partner only likes you for the way you look. You may feel pressured into always looking good and acting gracefully in his/her presence.

Your Venus in your partner’s 2^nd house:

The 2^nd house represents finances, material possessions, values, and natural talents.

You: You may derive great joy and satisfaction from spoiling your partner. Your partner’s love of money and fine things is certainly enhanced by your relationship. You give your partner lots of compliments, for you feel the desire to raise his/her self-esteem. Your compliments are not only directed at their looks, but also at their inner qualities. You demonstrate great admiration for their natural skills and talents. It is very important that you make your partner feel good about him/herself. You may teach your partner how to become more financially savvy, and may even attract wealth to your partner. Since Venus is the natural ruler of the 2^nd house, the two of you tend to value the same things in life. Because the second house represents material assets, you may see your partner has a possession or an object. Beware of objectifying your partner, or treating them like you own them. Indeed, you may tend to see your partner as a resource and believe they should share their finances and assets with you.

Your partner: You feel your self-esteem and self-worth increase when you are around your partner. They give you plenty of compliments, which make you feel good about yourself. They see a beauty in you, that you may not even see in yourself! Your partner may tend to spend a lot of money on you, which is great for you! You gain a greater appreciation of financial security because of your partner. You feel the desire to develop your natural skills and talents due to your partner’s encouragement. On the downside, your partner may see you as a resource, and may assume that your money, assets, and skills should be shared. Your partner may see you as someone who is at their disposal, which can make you feel very used. If your partner’s Venus makes negative aspects to planets in your chart, you may feel that you are treated as a possession or an object of his, rather than an actual human being. The two of you have similar tastes and personal values.

Your Venus in your partner’s 3^rd house:

You: Your conversations with your partner generally revolve around music, fashion, beauty, and love. The two of you enjoy discussing your relationship. You bring out your partner’s most loving and beautiful thoughts and words. The two of you share interests in regards to books, television, and gossip. You value the way your partner communicates, and love what they say and how they express themselves. You see great beauty in their thoughts and ideas.

Your partner: Your partner stimulates your desire to share loving thoughts. You tend to avoid arguing with your partner because your desire for harmony and peace in communication is increased because of your partner. Your conversations may border on the superficial because of this. You are strongly intellectually attracted to your partner and love sharing loving thoughts and feelings with him/her. Your partner has a great appreciation for and sees great value in your thoughts and ideas.

Your Venus in your partner’s 4^th house

The 4^th house represents family, domestic life, and emotional security.

You: You see your partner as family. Your partner might have the qualities of a close female relative of yours. You love spending time with your partner, due to the amount of comfort and security you derive from being with one another. Because of you, your partner derives a greater love of home and family than usual. Even if your partner is not usually a homebody, they have a greater-than-average love of staying at home with you. You feel “at home” with one another, and this goes a long way in maintaining a long-term relationship. You may enjoy get-togethers with your partner’s family and friends. You have a significant influence over the aesthetic properties of your partner’s home. You feel immediately comfortable in your parnter’s home, and with his/her family. This aspect indicates a harmonious, peaceful family life.

Your partner: Your partner stimulates your love of home and family. Your relationship with your partner is based on mutual love and emotional security. You love spending plenty of time with your partner, especially at home. Indeed, partying and socializing become a lot less attractive when you are together! You enjoy inviting your partner to your family get-togethers, and may find that your partner easily ‘fits in’ with your parents and siblings. If the two of you ever live together, peace, balance, and harmony will permeate your domestic life. Your interest in interior design and the aesthetic properties of your home is stimulated by your partner.

Your Venus in your partner’s 5^th house:

The 5^th house represents love, romance, fun, and children. This synastry overlay is one of the best to have in a romantic relationship!

You: Romance and fun is at the forefront of your relationship. You and your partner are lighthearted and playful when you are with one another. You love your partner’s creative nature. You encourage your partner to take risks and have fun! You love being at the center of your partner’s attention and loving giving him/her pleasure. In fact, you may even be possessive over your partner, and jealous over anyone who takes any of your partner’s attention! Your partner may greatly desire to procreate with you. Your partner is very attracted to you due to the love and romance the two of you share. This is a great aspect in regards to sexual attraction, as well. You were likely the one who pursued your partner.

Your partner: Your partner stimulates your love of fun and romance. He/she is very much in love with you, and the two of you have a lot of fun together! In fact, it was probably you partner who pursued you. You demand a lot of attention from your partner, and enjoy being at the center of his/her attention. You love going out and socializing with your partner. In fact, you feel most in love with your partner when the two of you are “at play.” You feel appreciated for your creativity because of your partner. Indeed, if you are an artist, your partner will love your work. You feel less afraid to take risks in expressing your love for your partner. The sexual and romantic attraction between the two of you is through the roof! You gladly lap up all the pleasure your partner offers you. You may see your partner as someone you would like to have children with. Because of your partner, you may indulge in more guilty pleasures than usual.

Your Venus in your partner’s 6^th house:

The 6^th house represents our day-to-day routines, work habits, and health. This is a strong indicator of meeting one another at work.

You: You have a vested interest in your partner’s daily routines, work habits, and health. Your desire to be “of service” to your partner is very strong. You show your partner love by offering them help, running errands, etc. If this is a business relationship, you and your partner greatly enjoy working together. If you are a colleague of this person, you absolutely adore them. You and your partner look forward to seeing each other everyday; your relationship is an enjoyable “routine” you both share. Daily chores and errands become a lot more fun because of your partner.

Your partner: You derive a great deal of emotional satisfaction from the fact that you know you can depend on your partner. Together, you and your partner look for new and better ways to work together, improve yourselves, and improve your health. The two of you have shared in interests and values when it comes to diet, exercise, and managing your daily affairs. Doing chores and running errands suddenly becomes a lot more pleasurable when you are with your partner. You might have met your partner at work, and look forward to your workday for the simple reason that you can’t wait to see them! If you do not work together, the two of you may set up a routine in your relationship from which you derive a lot of emotional satisfaction.

Venus-Neptune in Synastry

Venus is the planet of beauty, pleasure, and harmony, and rules our one-on-one relationships. Neptune is the planet of fantasy, dreams, idealism and delusion.

When Venus meets Neptune in synastry, a soul connection is indicated. You probably met each other when you were looking for the relationship of your dreams. We all have an idea of our perfect match, our knight in shining armor with whom we will share a fairy-tale love story. When someone’s Neptune makes an aspect to your Venus, you feel as though your dreams have come true.

With this aspect comes the tendency to view each other in the best light possible. The little, or big, characteristics that would normally bother you about someone are glossed over in favor of their better qualities. The Venus person tends to project her fantasies onto the Neptune person, assigning him the qualities of her ideal match. The Neptune person may or may not actually possess these qualities, but tends to play along to please the Venus person.

The couple gets caught up in the other-worldliness and fantasy the relationship offers. This can cause major problems later on, as Neptune is bound to err in some way or another, which leads to disappointment on the part of the Venus person. Venus’ refusal to see Neptune for who he really is lends itself to self-defeating behavior; in reality, no one is perfect, so Neptune will eventually fall off the pedestal Venus holds him so highly upon.

Another danger of this aspect is outright deception. Yes, Neptune feels pressure to fulfill the fantasies of the Venus person. Like Venus, Neptune aims to please. This desire to keep Venus’ fantasy alive could lead Neptune to lie and deceive the Venus person. While on some level, Venus may feel something is not quite right, she subconsciously chooses to overlook these inconsistencies, thereby ignoring the truth to keep the dream alive. Usually, Venus eventually realizes Neptune is human, and he isn’t perfect, which can lead to disappointment and a broken heart.

Another manifestation of this aspect involves a victim-savior scenario. Venus may be drawn to Neptune because he needs “help”. Perhaps he is an alcoholic. Perhaps he is a drug addict. Perhaps he has unresolved issues from the past which he is dealing with. Neptune draws out Venus’ compassion and sensitivity, stimulating her desire to “save” him. This can be dangerous, as the relationship can become unhealthily co-dependent.

The preceding description is especially applicable to hard synastry aspects (conjunction, square, opposition)  between Venus and Neptune. The harmonious aspects (sextile and trine) are less intense, and foster the positive characteristics of Venus-Neptune aspects such as compassion, forgiveness, and a feeling of unity.

Venus-Jupiter Aspects in Synastry

Venus is the planet of love, romance, money, and pleasure. Jupiter is the planet of good luck, optimism, and fortune. In synastry, aspects between Venus and Jupiter indicate a great deal of fun and affection between the two of you.

The harmonious aspects (conjunct, trine, and sextile) indicate a great deal of generosity and goodwill between the two of you. You are highly affectionate with one another, and truly enjoy spending time with each other. Being together is fun! The relationship is characterized by plenty of laughter and good times, and the two of you may share plenty of inside jokes. You feel comfortable showing affection to one another, and create a very pleasant atmosphere together. You easily forgive one another, as you tend to give each other the benefit of the doubt. This aspect also indicates a good amount of generosity, especially on the part of the Jupiter person. In fact, you find it enjoyable to spoil one another!

The square and opposition are slightly more tricky, but still very pleasant. You tend to have high expectations of each other and your relationship, which can lead to disappointment if and when one person’s expectations are not met. You are likely to promise a lot to one another, as well. In addition, there can be a tendency to be overly-polite to one another, which can end up being seen as superficial or un-genuine.

You two are likely to have a wild time together, as you encourage each other to over-indulge in pleasure and excitement. For example, couples with this aspect may tend to go on dates at the trendiest, most expensive restaurants, and fill up on the most sugary, decadent desserts together.

Venus-Pluto in Synastry

Venus and Pluto rule side-by-side signs, Libra and Scorpio. Venus also rules Taurus, the sign that opposes Scorpio. When signs are side-by-side and in opposition to one another, they are as different as can be. Venus symbolizes harmony, beauty, pleasure, and love, while Pluto symbolizes transformation, sex, death, rebirth, and intimacy.

In synastry, Pluto brings intensity, obsession, possessiveness and a craving for intimacy. Pluto wants to delve deep to uncover what’s underneath the surface. Superficiality does not appeal to Pluto; he wants something deep. He wants something transformative, something that transcends the boundaries between two people. Not in the Neptunian, spiritual way, but in a more physical, psychological way. Venus, on the other hand, wants balance and harmony. Venus is known as a superficial planet, as she craves beauty and cooperation above everything.

When Pluto meets Venus in synastry, the Beast meets Beauty. Pluto is not impressed by Venus’ social graces and flowery tastes. He is tremendously attracted to her charm, grace, and beauty, yes, but the attraction stems from far beyond her outer beauty. Pluto sees right into Venus’s psyche. He wants to uncover her layers, and wants to know her deepest, darkest secrets. He wants to take Venus into the depths of intimacy, where true bonding and intimacy take place. At first, Venus is taken aback; she is both frightened and intrigued by Pluto. She is flattered by his attention and interest in getting to know her, but his intensity is frightening. She loves his passion, as it makes her feel desired and beautiful. Venus knows she cannot hide from Pluto, and the temptation is hard to resist. If Pluto feels his level of intensity is not matched by Venus, he will increase his intensity until they are on the same level.

As in all Pluto synastry aspects, the Pluto person has the “upper hand”, and Venus is the submissive partner. As the relationship develops, the couple becomes demanding of each other. The fear of losing one another affects them both, giving rise to feelings of insecurity, jealousy, and possessiveness. Pluto desires complete domination and control over Venus, while Venus is eager to please Pluto. Pluto will continue to dig and dig at Venus’ mind until he is satisfied with Venus’ affection. “All or Nothing” characterizes this union. Pluto is not willing to share Venus, and uses manipulative tactics to ensure Venus belongs to him, and him only.

Pluto forces Venus to see something about herself that she wanted to keep hidden. His role is to transform Venus by exploring the depths of intimacy and sharing. The relationship is highly sexual, and the chemistry is addictive. This level of passion is the highest you will have in your life as the two explore and play out each others’ deepest, darkest secrets and fantasies. This aspect can result in sexual exploitation, as well, given Pluto’s dominance over Venus, and Venus’ desire to please Pluto in any way she can.

If you’ve ever read “Fifty Shades of Grey,” you have a good understanding of Venus-Pluto in synastry. In the book, the young, handsome millionaire, Grey, meets a young, innocent virgin, Ana, and the two begin a sexual relationship, characterized by dominance and submission. Grey calls the shots in the relationship, telling her the relationship will be only sexual in nature. Grey tests Ana’s sexual limits, bringing out a sexual side of her she never knew existed. Ana finally becomes exhausted with the relationship, and leaves Grey, but the level of passion and intimacy the two shared would never be forgotten.

One final note: Venus-Pluto in synastry aspect can also result in financial exploitation. In addition to love and beauty, Venus also rules finances and personal possessions. Pluto may take advantage of Venus’ desire to please him by taking over her finances.

The preceding description applies especially to hard aspects (conjunction, opposition, square) between Venus and Pluto in synastry. The sextile and trine encapsulate the positive side of Venus-Pluto; there is intensity and obsession, but it is less consuming and negative than we find in the hard aspects.

Venus-Uranus in Synastry: Electric Love

In astrology, Venus represents love, beauty, one-on-one relationships, and harmony. Uranus represents unpredictability, instability, independence and the unconventional. When these two planets meet in synastry, sparks are bound to fly.

Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? You know, that exciting, heart-stopping feeling you experienced the first time you laid your eyes on that special someone? You might have had a Venus-Uranus synastry aspect with that person. You likely met this person when one of you was searching for something new and exciting, completely out of the norm of your other relationships. Maybe this person came from a different cultural background than you. Maybe you felt stuck in your stale marriage, and you then met an interesting, intriguing younger man who completely swept you off your feet. Uranus serves to jolt us awake, making us aware of our need for independence, individuality, and stimulates our desire for the unique. Uranus beckons us to take the road less travelled, to step out of our comfort zone and into new, fresh experiences.

When Venus meets Uranus, the chemistry is unmistakable. You probably met suddenly, and unexpectedly. The Uranus person is enamored by the Venus person’s grace and beauty, while the Venus person is intrigued by the excitement and unpredictability the Uranus person promises. You feel you have met your soul mate, and the relationship starts with a bang. The intellectual connection is through the roof; you feel you have met someone with whom you can share your unusual interests. Along with this connection is a strong physical and sexual attraction.

As with all outer planet to inner planet synastry aspects, the outer planet person usually has the upper hand in this relationship. As the relationship progresses and things start to get comfortable, Uranus may begin to withdraw. Why is this? Well, Uranus represents freedom and independence, and has a disdain for tradition, while Venus seeks harmony and cooperation. Venus wants romance and harmony, while Uranus wants excitement and freedom. When Venus gets too close to Uranus, Uranus may distance himself from Venus. Uranus may begin to feel Venus wants more of a commitment than he can handle. Perhaps as the two settle into a routine, Uranus gets bored and seeks excitement elsewhere. Uranus is a rebellious planet, and may resent the fact that Venus wants to “tie him down.” Indeed, what started out as a torrid, exciting love affair can quickly degenerate into an unstable, unpredictable situation.

Venus-Uranus relationships are marked by an on-off energy between the couple. Numerous separations, often at key moments, are the hallmarks of this relationship. Indeed, the ability to count on one another is tarnished with this aspect. Venus finds it difficult to get Uranus to commit, and becomes frustrated by Uranus’ inconstancy. Venus’ initial feelings of excitement soon turn into feelings of frustration and disappointment at the perceived lack of interest on Uranus’ part. Indeed, this relationship has the potential of ending just as quickly as it began.

This aspect is also found in the synastry charts of long-distance relationships, interracial relationships, or relationships in which there exists a large age difference. Either way, the relationship itself is unconventional in some manner.

This description relates especially to hard aspects (conjunction, square, opposition) between Venus and Uranus in synastry. The trine and sextile are far more manageable; they inject excitement and unpredictability into the relationship, but are not as destabilizing and upsetting as we would experience in the case of hard aspects.

Note: Hard aspects between Venus and Uranus on their own do not spell doom for a couple. With the right amount of stabilizing aspects (e.g. Saturn), this relationship can last for a long time. Individuals with Venus in Earth or Water will have a more difficult handling this aspect than individual with Venus in Fire or Air.

Venus-Ascendant Aspects in Synastry

Venus is the planet of love, beauty, and romance, while the Ascendant represents our self-image, our physical appearance, and the way we project ourselves to the world.

When your Venus contacts another person’s Ascendant, romantic attraction is indicated. Particularly in the case of the conjunction, trine, and sextile, the Ascendant person is seen as the Venus person’s physical ideal of the perfect mate. The Venus person loves the way the Ascendant person looks, dresses, and behaves. The Ascendant person feels loved and adored, and appreciates the Venus person’s taste, mannerisms, and social graces. The couple easily expresses affection, and aims to please one another. At the same time, the attraction (on the part of the Venus person) is rather superficial, which can leave the Ascendant person wondering if they are only loved for their looks.

When one person’s Venus is opposite another person’s Ascendant (thus, conjunct the person’s Descendant), a strong attraction is indicated, particularly on the part of the Ascendant person. When someone’s Venus is in your 7^th house or close to the Descendant, they embody the qualities you are looking for in a partner. The two are natural partners for one another.

The square between Venus and the Ascendant indicates attraction, as well, but comes with some problems. On the plus side, there is a definite physical attraction to one another. This aspect usually indicates one person’s Venus in another person’s 4^th or 10^th house (this is definitely the case if you use equal houses). When Venus is in someone’s 4^th house, the house person feels “at home” with the Venus person. The two enjoy spending time at home with one another, and living with one another and starting a family comes naturally to the couple. Venus in the 10^th house indicates the Ascendant person looks up to and greatly admires the Venus person.

However, it may take some work to relate to one another, and you tend to be ultra-sensitive to each other’s moods and feelings. The mannerisms, tastes, and habits of the Ascendant person may be unattractive or offensive to the Venus person.

Think about it this way: Say you’re a Sagittarius Venus, and your partner’s Ascendant is in Virgo. Sagittarius Venus natives seek freedom, physicality, spontaneity, and adventure in their relationships. They tend to be attracted to athletic, “outdoorsy”, loud, direct, playful individuals who don’t take life (or relationships!) too seriously. Virgo Ascendants, on the other hand, come across as cautious, practical, calm and sensible. They are usually reserved, critical, and analytical- not exactly what Sagittarius is looking for. The Venus in Sag person may find the Virgo Ascendant person too stuffy or prudish, while the Ascendant may find the Sagittarius person outright rude!

Because of this, you may not “click” at first, but strong planetary aspects in synastry can certainly overcome this aspect.