When someone’s planet or point conjuncts your natal South Node, a past life connection is indicated. This person may be the “great love of your life.” Their memory is likely to stick with you forever, as your relationship has spanned many lifetimes. The South Node person is likely to feel that the planet person understand them better than anyone who has ever understood them. All South Node connections bring with them a sense of familiarity and comfort. You “know” the person from the moment you see them, and the chemistry is haunting.
This can be a good thing, or a bad thing, depending on how their past life relationship was. If it was a bad relationship, discomfort and fear are likely to surface on the part of at least one of the individuals. If the relationship was good, the relationship will be generally positive. This is especially true if the Node person is “South Node-oriented,” i.e. if the South Node person has conjunctions to their own South Node. In this case, they feel even more comfortable with the planet person and feels the planet person gives them the understanding and support they need.
On the downside, these kinds of relationships can make at least of the individuals feel “held back” by the relationship. They may feel that the relationship has no potential for growth, and decide to break off the union. Many astrology articles and books out there say it is the Node person who feels the relationship holds them back because the planet person “keeps” the Node person in the past.
However, in my personal experience, I’ve also seen the opposite: that the planet person feels held back. This is because the Node person often “drains” the planet person of the energy the planet represents. You see, Nodal connections in relationships indicate there is an imbalance that exists between the two people. The South Node person most likely did something nice for the planet person in the past, and they are now back in the planet person’s life, looking for payback. This, in turn, can be very draining for the planet person, as they feel they are always giving.
My Jupiter is conjunct my ex’s South Node. I was definitely very generous with him, and supportive of him, and I certainly felt drained! We had a strong spiritual and philosophical link. He is very religious, and I’m not, so we often “butted heads” over religious views. I was perhaps overbearing and dictatorial over him, and I definitely felt that I “knew best,” at least when it came to philosophy and religion. On the other hand, he loved that I was so optimistic, and called me his “good luck charm” frequently throughout our relationship. We had a painful break-up (which was due to religious differences), but he always told me he felt that he’d be financially successful if we got married.
Saturn-South Node: This connection indicates the South Node person may have been a restrictive or disciplinary force on the Saturn person in past life. South Node energies are very similar to Saturn energies, so this relationship is likely to be very “heavy” and serious. At the same time, this bond is said to be “unbreakable”! The feeling of commitment to each other is strong, and it can be difficult to separate from one another. On the other hand, this aspect is also regarded as a “separative aspect,” as in, the relationship between the two may never fully get off the ground. Saturn represents restriction, so this aspect indicates there may be significant barriers between the two of you, which impedes on your ability to form a real relationship.
At any rate, the two of you tend to reinforce each other’s pessimism, seriousness, cautiousness. You discourage each other from taking risks. The Saturn person may eventually feel “drained” by the South Node person’s disciplinary and repressive nature. If you do enter a relationship, and there are supportive aspects, the feelings of commitment and responsibility to one another can bind you together for a long time.
Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton had this aspect in Synastry. They divorced and re-married twice! Taylor had strong Uranus aspects in her chart, but she kept going back to Burton.
South Node conjunct North Node in Synastry: The South Node represents “where we’ve been,” while the North Node represents “where we’re going.” This synastry aspect indicates each person has developed the traits and qualities the other needs for their personal growth. As such, this is a very significant synastry connection. The two of you have met before, and will meet again. This bond is considered “unbreakable” to many astrologers. Personally, I have this aspect with my mother, and she is my soul mate, best friend, and confidant, forever and always.
Ascendant-South Node/Descendant-North Node: This aspect indicates compatibility, comfort and familiarity. You feel as though you are “meant to be.” Indeed, this is an indication that the two of you are Soul Mates. You feel very attracted and attached to one another, and the physical attraction is off the charts! You immediately feel a sense of recognition when the two of you meet. The Ascendant person freely gives to the Node person, but the Node person may restrict or limit the Ascendant person in the way they present themselves to the world.
Descendant-South Node/Ascendant-North Node: This is a very powerful synastry connection, often found in the charts of “soulmates.” This is a very special, karmic bond, which indicates the two of you have formed relationships over several lifetimes. The South Node person helps the Descendant person further their goals and individuality. This is a highly personal bond, which a deep sense of attraction and attachment to one another. The two of you love socializing together, and approach the world in a similar fashion. The Descendant person greatly helps the Node person develop the qualities they need in order to grow.
A good friend of mine and I have this aspect in Synastry. He has been in love with me for a very long time, but I only see him as a friend. I’ve often thought of him as someone who would be the perfect mate for me, as I always feel more confident and self-assured around him. We socialize together regularly. He shows me the utmost respect and cultivates my sense of self-respect. My North Node is in Taurus, and with his Ascendant conjunct this point, he exemplifies the qualities I need to develop in order to grow as a person. While other men concentrate on my sexuality (South Node in Scorpio), he values me for Me. I have always felt reluctance in forming a relationships with him, perhaps because I do not feel “ready.” Nevertheless, I am so comfortable with him, and we feel at ease in each others’ presence.
Midheaven-South Node/IC-North Node: This aspect indicates that the South Node person helped develop the professional success of the Midheaven person. Indeed, you were both strongly involved in each other’s public life and career in a past life. The two of you enjoy working together and being in the public sphere with one another. There is a strong pull towards setting up house and starting a family together, but there also may be a sense of discomfort or uneasiness when it comes to these matters. The two of you may encourage one another towards laziness in regards to professional goals. Also, the two of you may have conflicting needs in regards to home life and career life. Indeed, you may feel more comfortable in your public life together than in your private life together.
South Node-IC/North Node-MC: This karmic link indicates that the two of you have developed a strong private life together in a past life. Perhaps you were family members, or maybe the two of you were married. Either way, you feel comforted and nurtured by one another. You are happy to stay at home together, for this is “familiar territory” for the both of you. You are strongly empathetic and loving to one another. On the downside, you may shut yourselves out from the world in order to be alone. Or, there may be conflict when it comes to the conflicting demands of your home life on one hand, and your public/professional life on the other.